On a scale of 1-10 for introversion -1 being an actual hermit and 10 being the super extroverted end – I would place myself at 3, or maybe 2 and 1/2. I don’t mind it, don’t want to change it and couldn’t if I did. It’s not a condition, it’s not better or worse than the other end of the spectrum, I do like people, I’m not sad or lonesome in any general sense, I’m just wired in such a way that solitude, and lots of it, is where my energy comes from.
I would like to be a BETTER introvert though in three ways I’m clear about:
Figuring out how not to feel bad about it or at least feel bad about it less often – I waste so much time and energy on that.
Being a more diligent and intrepid explorer of myself – I want to reach past the comfortable territory I’ve already navigated and develop more skill at sharing that world.
And by challenging the edge of my natural inclination more often – not in an effort to be someone else but to expand to my full capacity, to explore and experiment outside myself and collaborate more – in ways that respect what I need but push me past what’s entirely comfortable and familiar.
P.S. If this is something you relate to check out Jonathan Field’s conversation with Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.