On a scale of 1-10 for introversion, 1 being an actual hermit and 10 being the super extroverted end, I would place myself at 3, or maybe 2 and 1/2. I don’t mind it, don’t want to change it and couldn’t if I did. It’s not a condition, it’s not better or worse than the other end of the spectrum, I do like people, I’m not sad or lonesome in any general sense, I’m just wired in such a way that solitude, and lots of it, is where my energy comes from.
I would like to be a BETTER introvert though in three ways I’m clear about:
Figuring out how not to feel bad about it or at least feel bad about it less often. I waste so much time and energy on that.
Being a more diligent and intrepid explorer of myself. I want to reach past the comfortable territory I’ve already navigated and develop more skill at sharing that world.
And by challenging the edge of my natural inclination more often, not in an effort to be someone else but to expand to my full capacity, to explore and experiment outside myself and collaborate more – in ways that respect what I need but push me past what’s entirely comfortable and familiar.
P.S. If this is something you relate to check out Jonathan Field’s conversation with Susan Cain, author of Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking.